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“They wake up one day and they say, ‘Wow I really have feelings for this person.I’d like to take it to the next step.’ If the other person doesn’t feel the same way, then you basically run the risk of losing the friendship.” Collegiettes in flirtationships agree. Either they want to be more than friends or don’t act the same way back,” says Heather, a collegiette from the University of Arizona. A couple of drinks out at the bar and a hug that’s kept going for just a second too long. Like, your old friend from high school or that guy who lives down the hall in your dorm?And with some advice from Julie Spira, best-selling author and the Cyber Dating Expert, and stories from real collegiettes, you can take charge of your flirtationship. “More often than not, it does become a romantic relationship.“I've had a few flirtationships, and they were entertaining, but I went too far when I accidentally got into one with my best guy friend,” she says.“We had previously considered dating, but decided against it because we thought it would damage our friendship.” Kerry from Hofstra University found herself in a dire dilemma when her flirtationship with a taken guy went a little too far.“My good friend Paul used to live in a house off-campus with me – directly next to my room.
We've kissed a few times and I've slept in his bed without taking any further steps than that (though we're usually pretty physical and affectionate with each other).
Jealousy is the number one cause of destroyed friendships that developed into flirtationships, according to Spira.
“The number one way a flirtationship can hurt a friendship is if all of a sudden with all of this flirting foreplay you get this false sense that you’re in a relationship and maybe one person wants to be in a relationship with that person,” she says.
I know it has a lot to do with sexual tension and repression on his end considering that his girlfriend lives hundreds of miles away from him... It's a mutual understanding that this is just how our friendship works, but I do know that his girlfriend would be devastated if she knew how we act around each other.” So far, it hasn’t ruined her friendship with Paul, but she cautions collegiettes that flirtationships are definitely “dangerous territory.” “When his girlfriend came to visit in December it was so awkward,” she says.
“We always hug each other so when she was around I had to monitor my behavior to avoid any trouble.” The worst case scenario can happen when the whole flirtationship falls apart.